The Second Time Around

It is not my intention to hurt or offend anyone with my requests. 

This is solely to allow myself grace and permission to heal the way I feel is necessary.

I know it is very early, but this has weighed on my mind since we found out about the miracle that was blessed upon us.

After my birth, I do not wish to have any visitors in the hospital, unless you are personally asked. 

There will be a limited number of people asked to join us in the hospital. And those people will not be determined until Owyn comes Earthside, depending on many factors. Visiting time will be by a personal invitation by myself or John the day of the birth.

You’re relationship to us or the baby, does not entitle or guarantee you to be on that list. No offense intended.

This birth will end in a lotus baby, which means his Placenta will remain attached until it naturally falls off. This will allow for optimal bonding and closeness between Mom and Baby for the first 5-10 days of life. 

Mom and Baby will not leave home, unless critically necessary within the first 15 days of life. 

You are welcomed to visit our home, but will be asked to help around the house, bring a meal, and nurture Mama as well as Baby during this time. 

This is the last time I plan to go through this part of my life and I want to give myself the best possible chance to heal and recover both physically, mentally, and emotionally. 

I ask you to refrain from advising your opinions and remain  in silence due to the nature of me wanting to please others. I do not want to feel guilty about the decisions I feel very strongly about.I am being selfish for my health and happiness. I ask you respect this even if it is not what you agree with, prefer, or understand.

I have been through extreme darkness and was robbed of enjoying the first weeks and months of Dylan’s life to the fullest due to my own mind. And I have done massive work over the last 2 ½ years to ensure this time is different. 

I have a village that supports me, I hope you choose to be part of it- and in that, means respecting these requests. 

I ask you not to bring any “stuff” you feel obligated to buy the baby, but offer your time, energy, and help while we are in this vulnerable time.

My gratitude is vast. My intention is pure. My love is strong. 

Thank you,

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An Open Letter to All Mamas.⁣



Hello,⁣

I see you. ⁣
I hear and feel you.⁣
I am listening. ⁣

I know what it’s like to walk in your shoes, maybe not the same style or size, but nonetheless, walking in the path of Motherhood. ⁣

I have been through the darkness, been through the deepest trenches of my mind. I have doubted, questioned, and argued with idea if hopeless and worthlessness. ⁣

I was encouraged, supported, and empowered while I created this life inside me, then it all didn’t matter anymore. ⁣

I felt proud, strong, and accomplished after birth; to then feel flawed, useless, and shamed within days. ⁣

My mind was my worst enemy, fueled by society, expectations, and comparisons.⁣

Then something divine happened- I gave myself a Chance. ⁣

A chance to get well.⁣
A chance to birth myself as well.⁣
A chance to grow instead of sink. ⁣

I made a decision that I was worth it.⁣
I made a decision that I was enough.⁣
I made a decision that I could do it.⁣
Without being perfect.⁣
With lots of Grace and Gratitude.⁣


I found my power.⁣

The same power that unconsciously created, grew, and birthed this new life. ⁣

The same power that generations of Mothers have held over centuries. ⁣

The same power we are all connected with. ⁣

It is within us all. ⁣

It is within us always. ⁣

We need to peel back the layers of insecurity, judgement, and guilt in order to uncover it. ⁣

We need to give ourselves a fighting chance. ⁣

We need to know we are fucking worth it all. ⁣

All the support.⁣
All the care.⁣
All the help.⁣
All the grace.⁣
All the love.⁣

I love you,⁣

because you are me and I am you. ⁣

Mama, you are powerful no matter what you have been through. ⁣

Mama, you have the power to move forward and be well. ⁣

Mama, you have the power to create your life. ⁣

I hope you are feeling a little anxious, very excited, and even tingly while reading this.⁣

Because it means you believe that you hold this power, even if it’s a teeny bit at this moment. ⁣

Let us come together and uncover the power we possess. ⁣

With love,⁣
Nicole Obenshine⁣

Jaime’s Story!

It wasn’t until my 3rd child that I discovered what was going on with me. The intrusive thoughts and suicidal ideations came to a head in January 2014, when my 3rd was 5 months old. It got so bad I made a plan to take my life. Thankfully, miracles happened that day and I didn’t go forward with anything. I finally broke and told my husband everything.

I had been having these thoughts and feelings since my first was born almost 5 years earlier. I was terrified to say anything because I was so convinced my children would be taken from me, my husband would leave me and my worst fears confirmed; that I was a terrible mother and a burden to everyone.

No one talked about the uncontrollable, terrifying rage that can hit at any moment. I hid it so well out in public, but home was a different story. Anything and everything could set me off. I felt like the monster those intrusive thoughts were telling me I was.

But I got help. I saw a therapist, got medication and put in a lot of work to kick this ugly, soul stealing disorder to the curb.

And here I am on the other side. Finding the joy in life and in my four wonderful children.

Hello !

I recently returned from a week long cruise to Bermuda and wanted to share some thoughts and experiences I had aboard.

In no particular order, here they are:

The Ocean is like Motherhood.

Sometimes people say things that are so innocent but can really throw you for a tizzy. So we need to be empathetic both ways.

We are all fighting some battle. Be kind.

Americans are very fortunate and need to learn gratitude.

American moms seriously need to create a lobby for Maternity Leave Reform.

Time is in the eye of the beholder.

I love meeting new people.

I want to live where the water is actually blue and clean, but I want to be near family too.

I love being with my son, more than I thought.

I believe I can have an impact on the world I just need to keep going and have faith in myself.

What I would give to wake up and have time to sit overlooking the ocean and meditate each morning.

I deserve for my health to be a priority.

Being sung to by British men on stage is a dream come true lol.

Back to reality tomorrow. But consistently working toward my dream reality… Freedom.